How I approach working with self-doubt
Many people live with self-doubt as a constant backdrop. Outwardly you may seem capable, while inside you’re weighed down by criticism, second-guessing, or fears of not being enough..
This page offers a closer look at what self-doubt can feel like, where it often comes from, and how therapy might help.
What does self-doubt feel like?
You might notice:
A critical inner voice, quick to point out flaws and overlook your strengths.
Second-guessing your own thoughts and feelings, as if they can’t be trusted
Holding back from opportunities or relationships, because fear of making mistakes or being judged feels too strong.
Self-doubt doesn’t look the same for everyone. It might appear quietly in the background or feel constant and consuming. However it shows up for you, it’s valid.
Where does it come from?
Self-doubt can emerge from a number of places:
A self-critical voice that developed from expectations absorbed from parents, teachers, or other important figures
Repeated invalidation of your emotions, leading you to second-guess your inner experience
Cultural, academic, or workplace pressures that emphasize perfection, success, or comparison.
You don’t have to know why it’s there — we can explore that together, gently.
How therapy can support you with self-doubt
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Understanding and naming what’s going on
Recognizing and naming your inner experiences can bring relief and a greater sense of clarity.
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Making sense of patterns that once kept you safe
Exploring how past coping strategies developed, and how they might be showing up now in ways that no longer serve you.
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Practicing new ways of relating to yourself
Replacing harsh self-talk with more compassionate and supportive inner responses.